Women real estate professionals are overcharged and underserved by the conventional financial system, Certified Financial Planner Amanda Neely writes. Here’s how to stop paying for it.
You know about the pink tax. It’s the markup on the pink razor that’s otherwise identical to the men’s version. The dry cleaning charge for the same fabric. The smaller amount at the same price, just because the product is marketed toward women.
It doesn’t stop at the cash register.
Published in the American Economic Review, a recent study examining 27,000 client meetings at a German bank found that financial advisors — both men and women — systematically gave female clients worse investment advice. Women were steered toward expensive in-house funds with higher fees and offered fewer rebates than male clients in comparable situations.
The researchers called it statistical discrimination, using gender as a shortcut for financial sophistication, then applying that assumption to every woman who walked through the door.
The result is a pink tax on your investments. You pay more and get less, not because of anything you asked for but because of what was assumed about you.
The response in the financial press was sensible: Build financial literacy, start investing sooner. Both true. Both incomplete.
Here’s what I’d add.
Know what you want before you walk into the room
The conventional financial system was built around a specific kind of client: steady income, employer-sponsored retirement plan, long investment horizon, standard risk tolerance. That profile doesn’t describe most women (and men) in real estate. You have variable income, no employer match and financial goals that may look nothing like a 30-year index fund glide path.
Before you sit across from any financial professional, get clear on what you actually want. What does financial security mean to you?
- Saving six months of reserves or two years?
- Building wealth outside the stock market?
- Running a business that needs a different kind of architecture than a W-2 employee?
Your definition of “enough” isn’t in any calculator. It’s yours to decide.
A professional who starts the conversation by asking what you want is a different kind of professional than one who starts by explaining what you should want.
Interview at least 2 or 3 financial professionals
Do this even if you like the one you have.
This isn’t about distrust. It’s about information. A second opinion costs you a conversation and gives you a baseline. You’ll quickly learn whether the strategy you’re being offered is standard-issue or actually suited to your situation.
Ask each one:
- How do you get paid?
- What products do you recommend most often and why?
- Have you worked with commission-based, self-employed women before?
- How do you approach tax strategy alongside irregular income?
You are interviewing them, not the other way around.
Ask every question until you’re comfortable
The study found that women are treated as less price-sensitive — meaning advisors assume you won’t push back on fees or ask about alternatives. Prove that assumption wrong.
Ask what the fee is. Ask what the alternatives are. Ask what happens if your situation changes. Ask what the downside looks like.
A professional who gets impatient with your questions or who answers in a way you can’t follow is telling you something important. Move on.
You don’t have to accept a recommendation you don’t understand. Understanding what you’re agreeing to isn’t an optional extra. It’s the minimum.
Conventional doesn’t work for everyone — and that’s fine
The standard financial roadmap — max the 401(k), diversify into index funds, retire at 65 — was built around assumptions that don’t fit a lot of people, including a lot of women.
Variable income, entrepreneurial goals, non-traditional family structures, risk tolerance that’s genuinely different from what an algorithm assigns you — these all point toward a financial architecture that looks different from the default.
That’s not a problem to fix. That’s information.
The real estate industry has already taught you that off-market deals exist, that the listed price isn’t the only price and that the conventional path isn’t always the right one. Your financial life deserves the same scrutiny.
Conventional isn’t neutral. It’s just what everyone else is doing. You don’t have to.