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We recently connected with Shiva J and have shared our conversation below.
I didn’t find my purpose all at once. It was something that revealed itself over time through a series of experiences, challenges, and changes in my life.
When I was younger, my focus was very physical. I trained in martial arts, athletics, and later became a personal trainer. I enjoyed helping people improve themselves, but at that stage I thought my purpose was just about performance and success.
Later in life I went through a period where a lot of things fell apart — financially, professionally, and personally. As difficult as that time was, it forced me to ask deeper questions about who I was and what actually mattered. That’s when I began studying psychology, meditation, and eventually Tantra and other spiritual traditions.
What I realized was that the part of my life that always felt the most meaningful was when I was helping people grow — not just physically, but emotionally and mentally. Whether I was coaching, teaching, or leading groups, I felt most aligned when I was creating spaces where people could become more aware of themselves.
Over time that became clear to me as my purpose:
to help people develop self-awareness, improve their relationships, and become more grounded in who they are.
Today, the work I do — teaching, coaching, leading groups — feels like a natural continuation of everything I’ve lived through. It wasn’t one moment where I found my purpose. It was a process of paying attention to what kept calling me back, even after life knocked me off course.
My work is centered around personal growth, relationships, and self-awareness. Professionally, I’m a teacher, coach, and facilitator, and I run a practice called The Heart Centered Being, where I work with individuals, couples, and groups through coaching, workshops, and educational programs focused on communication, emotional intelligence, and conscious relationships.
A big part of what I do involves helping people slow down and become more aware of themselves — how they think, how they react, how they relate to others. A lot of people are successful in their careers but struggle in their relationships, or they feel disconnected from themselves, and that’s where this work becomes really meaningful. I combine western psychology, with mindfulness, and traditional eastern teachings like Tantra to help people develop more presence, better communication skills, and a stronger sense of purpose.
One of the things that feels most special about what I do is the community aspect. Over the years I’ve created spaces where people can have real conversations, learn relationship skills, and work on themselves in a supportive environment. I run workshops, group programs, and live events that bring people together in a way that’s very different from typical social settings — the focus is on authenticity, growth, and connection.
I also lead a men’s program called The Sacred Kings, which focuses on personal responsibility, emotional maturity, and developing healthy masculinity. That work has been especially meaningful to me because many men don’t have spaces where they can talk honestly about their lives, their relationships, and their struggles without judgment.
Right now I’m expanding my work into more structured programs, including communication courses, relationship workshops, and new live events designed to help people build stronger connections with themselves and with others. I’m also working on growing the community side of the work, because I believe real change happens when people have consistent support, not just one-time experiences.
At the core of everything I do, the goal is simple — to help people become more aware, more grounded, and more capable of creating the kind of life and relationships they actually want.
Looking back, I would say the three most important qualities in my journey have been self-awareness, discipline, and the willingness to evolve.
The first is self-awareness.
A lot of growth didn’t happen for me until I became honest about my own patterns, my reactions, and the ways I was getting in my own way. Studying psychology, meditation, and personal development helped me understand that change starts with being able to see yourself clearly, even when it’s uncomfortable.
For someone early in their journey, my advice would be to spend time reflecting, journaling, and learning about how your mind works. The more aware you are, the more choices you have.
The second quality is discipline.
Earlier in my life this came through martial arts and physical training, but later I realized discipline applies to everything — relationships, business, emotional control, and personal growth. Motivation comes and goes, but discipline is what keeps you moving forward when things are difficult.
For people starting out, I would say focus on building small daily habits. Consistency matters more than intensity.
The third is the willingness to evolve.
My life has changed directions several times, and not always by choice. There were moments where I had to let go of what I thought my life was supposed to look like and be open to something new. That flexibility allowed me to grow instead of getting stuck.
My advice to anyone early in their journey is to stay curious and don’t be afraid to change course. Sometimes the path that feels like a setback is actually what leads you closer to what you’re meant to do.
When I look back, those three things — self-awareness, discipline, and adaptability — have been more important than talent or luck.
I’m always open to connecting with like-minded people who are passionate about personal growth, community building, and helping others develop more awareness and stronger relationships. In my work I collaborate with coaches, therapists, facilitators, bodyworkers, educators, and event organizers who share a similar intention of creating meaningful experiences for people.
A lot of what I do involves workshops, group programs, and live events, so I enjoy working with people who bring different skills or perspectives, whether that’s in the areas of psychology, somatic work, mindfulness, communication, or creative expression. Some collaborations are teaching together, some are hosting events, and sometimes it’s simply supporting each other’s work and communities.
I’m especially interested in working with people who value professionalism, integrity, and personal responsibility, because when you’re working in the space of growth and healing, the quality of the container really matters.
If anyone reading this feels aligned with the kind of work I do, the easiest way to connect with me is through my website, www.TheHeartCenteredBeing.com
, where you can find my events, programs, and contact information. I’m always open to conversations and seeing where a connection might lead.
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